Newbies Check In

[mamajams]

colbycelina said:

hi my name is colby. i wanted to join this forum for advice. In august i go to the doctor to have a blood test to see if im pregnant, though part of me kinda knows i am probably. if so, i will be a young(early 20's) single black mother of a biracial child. im currently in school and working. thank-you

Welcome to the board!

Don't let southpaw bother you - what he said was out of line - this isn't that kind of board - no one is here to judge you.
I have a 6 yr old dd with my boyfriend and an 11 yr old step daughter. We aren't married but we've been living together for about 7 yrs now. Hope to see you posting soon.

WAIT - correction my dd will be 6 next week - why am I rushing things LOL...

[mamajams]

Welcome to all the newbies - I hope to see y'all start posting!!

[bigkesh]

Hello and welcome to all of our new members .

Much Love,
Keshia

[Anna84]

;D

Hello everyone! I am a black woman who does not have any children (as of yet) but is very interested in a black woman's take on raising an multiracial child.

I find it to be very important to find out information about children and raising children, especially since I was raised in a very militant black household where I had many questions about my grandparents' ethnicity and heritage that were never really addressed growing up.

I hope I can have great conversations with you all, and I hope to have a good time!

Also, I used to be a member here about a year ago, but school obligations forced me to stay away from chatting it up on the internet.

[pb]

everybody jump on in

[charvet]

I've been out on maternity leave so I've missed getting to know all you newbies. Welcome aboard!

[elizabeth ladybudd]

whoooo hoooo!!! ;D
After 3 long tiring tries last night, just chose another screen name likely not to be in use (better not be, its my real name !)
Igo by elizabeth, thats prolly why I couldnt sign in. I have a son ..Kirk 18 that just moved out and a special needs daughter ..light of my life and truley Fey
My Hubby lives in england(long story) we have a wondrful house there and we commute alot. I have an ex from hell that just got outta prison, down 8 yeras absentee dad even though Ileft door open for communique, entire family cracked, think ma barker and her boys, right hillbillies and MEAN! anyways he is out now and after a year of his parents and my EX mum gainging up to keep me here , he is fighting to not let me move to a lovely , functional, nuclear family, nice house garden school and above the poverty level section 8 I reside in now. Dont get me wrong, love my home here too and situational poverty we are all just 2 checks away from, I was doing very well on my own but after Rhiannon born, HAD to give up job to care for her. Her disorders very rare and complex, but she is the brightest star in the sky (well really the fairy sitting ON it with her wand lol)
I hope to be a productive member and also to find friends here. My story is VERY personal, and I only belong to a couple other unusual sites, one re music / a band, and a couple others to do with my ecclectic faith.
So...theres for starters..hello all, happy harvest week, I wish you all bright blessings and look forward to more contacts
slainte'
Elizabeth

[elizabeth ladybudd]

....sorry, forgot..Rhiannon is 8 years old, has mitochondrial disease, 22Q deletion, cyclic vomiting (abdominal migraine seizures) and atypical autism as well as PDD.
But aside from some emotional immaturity, (lackof peers, home bound schooled till recently ..HORRAY!) She is a very gentle fey creature, if you have never met a fairy, when you meet her you can tell everyone you have and they are real
slainte
E ladybudd aka Rhiannons mum

[bigkesh]

Hello and welcome . Make yourself at home here. We have some wonderful ladies here and we even have a member here from England as well .

Much Love,
Keshia

[elizabeth ladybudd]

Thank you Keisha...
very pretty name, and even cooler...My gal...My BEST gal and counselor is named Keisha ! So theres some pretty great Karma there to start with...I tease her ..she is the awesome incredible af. am queen...and she is too !
Is this site for only black women or bi or multi racial? I get the name of the site, but from reading posts im guessing its not strictly limited to JUST 100% black women...and only fair to be honest, im not, im blended. But deal with many same issues including religiose andcultural on top w/ hubby being upper mid class posh refined church of england guy
Anyways ...Ive been reading and adore the site.

am I going to have to go through all the sign in and code thing every time I post ?
have a great day girl
slainte'
eladybudd

[bigkesh]

You can log in using ladybudd and your password.

Most of the women on here are black but we all so has a wonderful Lation woman on our site ;D.

Are you biraical?

Much Love,
Keshia

[maynie]

Welcome! We love to hear from new people and it looks like you have a lot to say so jump right in.

[ladybudd]

Thanks May and Kesh...oh my yes...tons to say...where were you all when I needed you all thislast year of hell fighting ex and ex inlaws and then mum to boot!...cant say no support though....
I may as well out of the closet right away so no one misunderstands some of my comments later....My race is complicated blend and even some unknown, but I AM ME !
And Bugger to anyone who doesnt like it!
Unfortunately my so called mothers side is dutch (ch reformed to boot, she doesnt practice, but severly abusive childhood, and mostly to me, and I dont look as my bro and sis..they blond..and I am most certainly NOT. There has always been questions and speculations regarding my parentage, father says im his...but doubtful (evengranma says so) they were broke when )I was conceived , and I always was the severely abused child by WHOLE family.....so in all honesty Kesh...I know Im blended and SOME of my heratage (studies gmas scots side) but as for rest...Im not sure, but I hope that doesnt take me off the site as I see so many women dealing with women isues, yes a lot of racial issues, so here is my reason for feeling place here...

I follow a non raditional but very old prechristian path. Very private at times but not hiding it, and it is often used against me in a racial way...and the ironic thing is, one day my step mother admitted I WASNT my fathers, but wouldnt say who was, and the even stronger than usual reactions from other family members led me to believe there was a strong possibility I wasnt their race either, and mum always dated dark men after father left (8 yrs old) so wonder if she dated same predivorce

And my spirituality made a lot of family members go like "AHA!!! The PROOF IS OUT!!!"

No it isnt all african, but I study that too as part of my faith...to learn to understand and grace ALL faiths and bar none .

My dedicant program requires I have a deep knowledge of many faiths including egyptian, roman, greek, protoeuropean, african, mayan, and yes the new age faiths and reconstruction(reconstructions of the old ways for those prechristian including the above and pagan(all celtic races) ,wiccan (very new..celtic new age blend), asatru (north germanic)band many east and asian, buddihsm, tibet, and many more.

Following the beat to a different drum has all of my reletives respeculating, and then ostrasizing me , then mum and exinlaws teamed together to take my daughter, (my ex still in for armed robbery ..another long story, and NO Ididnt know when we first dated he was already in legal process, I was lied to, and we together very short time..but my lovely daughter a result ofa dumb rebound fling with wrong guy. Now he out in halfway house and causing more probs.

I remarried, hubby and I together 3 years now and I want to move to england and have a happy normal life, and ex is fighting every step although he never had interest in Rhiannon before, no contact at all almost 2 years, and just a couple times this last year...Rhiannon knows him as da-da 'on the phone' and a pic, but knows my hubby as daddy...she sees and talks to every day, and spends all time when he commutes here with him, he flying out for halloween for her. We usually commute alot more but this last yearsattorney fees sky high, and he will be here for usual xmas and hoping to hve ok from judge by spring to let rhiannon visit england(ex put a ban on me for the moment) and also have judge finally ok the move next spring/summer we hope.

ok...there is the small chapter from my life...explains why I feel so much comraderie here when I read...I always catch myself going..yup uhhum yup..thats me too!

So its up to the ladies and mods to decide if I fit criteria enough to join, but hell no I wasnt gonna lie to get oon a site and then get shunned later...ive been told im honest to a fault...and it often gets me in trouble but at least a clean conscience.

So ..my ethnicity is in question, but I do deal with predjudice everyday too, and I see some strong amazing women here, and not ashamed to say ..'Iwanna be like you!"
slainte' namaste'
ladybudd (nickname from daughter but yes its real too LOL)

[ladybudd]

.....quick question too Kesh...is there an edit feature? I have arthritis, and as you can see, my typing isnt the best and i likeot go back and edit for clarification, spelling and punctuation.
ty
LB

[mamajams]

Hello Ladybudd and welcome to the board! I can answer this for you (I hope you don't mind Kesh LOL) just click on that "MODIFY" button on the top right hand side of the post you want to edit.